Misbehaving......

I have been having an emotional week. Colton has been getting in trouble this week for lying to his teacher. I received a phone call on Tuesday from his teacher explaining that Colton received a red (bad day) and she wanted to explain that he will come up with these lies to not get in trouble. It has gotten to the point that she scheduled a meeting for Colton to meet with the Vice Principal.. WHAT!!!....why hasn't this been brought to my attention until now, when it is time for him to go to the Vice Principal???..... I talked (was disappointed/angry) with Colton that night, even tried the disciplining of soap in the mouth for lying. I didn't sleep at all that night, and kept wondering, why my child!! Have I just been in denial, or not seeing it? I have noticed at home that he will not tell me the truth if I asked him if he washed his hands after the bathroom, his response....."Yes", my response...."Colton"..........then his response again..."OK NO". I figured it was a kid thing, nothing biggie. But now I am a little worried. I took Colton to school on Wednesday, let the teacher know that I spoke with Colton, and she was happy I did. Then I went and spoke with the Vice Principal to see what the meeting would be like with Colton. She said she is just going to reiterate that lying isn't nice, and the more you lye, people aren't going to believe you and won't want to be your friend anymore. I was so anxious while talking to her, because I hadn't slept the night before, that I even teared up. She said, you are new at this aren't you? And I said yes.......I just don't want to have that "bad kid" and feel like a failure. She assured me that he is young, and that we all needed to be on the same page. Not a problem.........except when he was picked up from school that day. ANOTHER RED FOR LYING!!!! My heart just broke. I talked to my sister and she said, have you even explained to him what lying means, you have been punishing him, but maybe he just needs to be talked too....... OH, GUILTY FEELING! So I talked to him while I was at my moms, and did the story, The Boy That Cried Wolf. He seemed to understand what I was talking about, and realized that he didn't like Wolves. Skip to this morning, we talked all the way to school, I even made up a song about lying and that it is bad and how ugly you can look by lying, which he liked hearing me sing......so hopefully today will be better. PLEASE!!! Has anyone had problems with there kids lying? I need help teaching him that it isn't OK? All my emotions have been twisted and knotted......and I hate this guilty, bad parent feeling that has come over me. Suggestions????